Life is a Semicolon

While reading posts on a Parkinson’s FaceBook group this past week, I came to several conclusions. First, everyone has difficulties, just not all the same ones. Second, everyone is important, even when they aren’t sure they are. And third, I am thankful that I am not alone.

If you’re reading this blog for the first time, you might understand it better by pausing to read “The Journey Begins”. That was my first post, and you will find the link above on the right.

The purpose of this blog is to encourage and support those who care for someone, especially those with Parkinson’s Disease, and I hope you feel that through my thoughts today.

No matter the situation in which you find yourself, I expect we have all had times when we felt like no one understands what we’re going through. The longer I live and the more I read, I realize that is not true. While my situation is different from yours, I feel pain too. It may not be the same as your pain, but it is pain. By pain I mean sadness, inconvenience, concern, worry, despair, anger, etc. All of those contribute to how I feel sometimes while caring for my husband with Parkinson’s Disease. You may feel all of those for different reasons, but we feel emotion. We feel.

Now don’t get me wrong. I don’t feel them all at the same time, nor do I feel them all the time. And for that I am so thankful!

But I’m confessing to you right now that I struggle with my attitude at times. I struggle to be positive. I have difficulty always being kind. If you know me casually, you may be surprised. If you are a relative or know me well, you are smiling right now because you are NOT surprised.

If you feel these emotions, whatever your situation, you are not alone. When you tell me how you’re feeling, I would say to you, “Me Too!”

The title of today’s blog comes from a new discovery of mine, Project Semicolon. I heard about it while reading about a girl who had a semicolon tattooed on her wrist to remind her that her life isn’t over. Her present situation is just a semicolon before something new. Her life matters. Her life is not over because of her pain.

I heard of another very prominent author this week who draws a cross on her wrist every morning to remind herself that she lives each day for Jesus, and she is not alone.

So, I’m saying this to myself today and to you. Our lives matter. Not just the life of the one we care for, but my life matters and your life matters. We matter to our patient/spouse, and we matter to others, and more importantly we matter to God. We are not alone.

When we are overwhelmed with this job of caring for someone else, remember that WE matter. Remember that others like me are experiencing the same range of emotions, and that we are here to help each other.

Our story is not over. We have come to a semicolon. We can be inspired by others, and we can inspire others who come after us. This is the story of HOPE.

Published by parkinsonscare

I'm a retired mathematics teacher, mother, and grandmother. I cared for my husband for 23 years, and now he is in Heaven. My new mission in life is to support and encourage caregivers like you!

4 thoughts on “Life is a Semicolon

    1. I love it that we understand each other and that we care for each other. May there be more of this in the world that unites us, rather than divides us. Thanks for commenting, my dear friend.

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  1. I’ve been a caregiver for my husband, who suffered a TBI in 2001 and chronic pain as a result of the same accident, for 18 years. I am also a secondary caregiver for my Grandmother who has dementia. In December 2018 I was diagnosed with Parkinson’s, and now my husband is in the position to be my caregiver. We work together to care for each other, but some days we both struggle in that position. Despite it all, I have hope each day and go to bed each night knowing I am loved and valued. My goal is to not let Parkinson’s steal my joy. Best of luck to you and your husband.

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    1. Thank you for commenting, Shari. We each have a different story, don’t we? A different situation, different pain. But we each have hope. I like your goal – to not let PD steal your joy. We each have many things for which to be thankful. We can focus on those things, rather than what we lack. Thank you so much for sharing.

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