As a caregiver to my husband with advanced Parkinson’s Disease, I must be observant to every little change in his condition. Something small left unchecked can grow into something serious. So, being observant is part of my everyday routine surrounding his body and personal care.
But what about his spirit? What about his emotional and psychological well-being? I wonder if I am as quick to catch a bit of depression in him. Am I just as careful to observe his state of mind? I want to be so in tune with his spirit that I realize when he needs a word of encouragement or needs to talk about serious matters. I don’t want to miss an opportunity to talk with him about finances, about Heaven, about what he is leaving as a legacy to our children and grandchildren.
Similarly, when I meet a stranger and I look into their eyes, I am listening to their words, thinking about them in general, even trying to decide what I should say to them next. Sometimes I forget to observe their whole being. To take look at them as people whom God has created, whom God also loves. It is easy to get into the habit of glossing over people and details about them. Instead, I want to be observant to the point of feeling their heart, of hearing their heart. Most often that takes listening, not talking. By doing that, I pray that God will speak to me about how to respond to them to show them God’s love.