The Dreams on the Back Burner

As a caregiver, your time right now is not your own. I remember that time. I would sit down to do something I really enjoyed, get into it barely, and then hubby would call my name. He needed to go to the bathroom. My time for ME was over.

I would take a quiet moment to work on a puzzle, spend 5 or 6 minutes reacquainting myself with the picture, put in a few pieces, and then he would call my name again. This time he needed his drink refreshed. I had to stop doing what I loved in order to help him.

My time was not my own. Many of the desires and passions and pleasures we enjoy have been put on hold, no matter who we are caring for and no matter what their infirmity might be. We have put them on the BACK BURNER of our lives, for now.


This is not forever. This period of our lives will pass.

So, what do we do now? There are ways to keep those passions alive. There are ways to remember those things we love to do, but cannot do right now. We can make a plan. We can make a list. We can even create a “wish board” with pictures and symbols of all the things we want to do when we have time one day.

In my current situation, I have been privileged to move several things off the back burner of my life and onto the front burner! That includes my book about caregiving.

News Flash – – – I sent it to the publisher yesterday! The first draft is finished, and now the difficult part begins with the edits. More on that as I have news.

But here is my word to you today. Don’t give up on your dreams. Don’t stop doing the things that bring you joy, even if you can only do them a few minutes at a time. Don’t give up on wishing and hoping for the day you can spend hours at a time doing those things that feed your soul. Your day is coming. Don’t lose hope.

Thanks for reading, for commenting, and for all the difficult work you are doing now.

I am praying for you.

Published by parkinsonscare

I'm a retired mathematics teacher, mother, and grandmother. I cared for my husband for 23 years, and now he is in Heaven. My new mission in life is to support and encourage caregivers like you!

11 thoughts on “The Dreams on the Back Burner

  1. Oh Cheryl this is so uplifting….. You have helped me tremendously today in helping me remember that it’s not the end for me….
    Thank you my dear friend,
    Cheryl F.

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  2. Congratulations on the first step for your book. How exciting! One of my passions is being made reality with the help of a wonderful landscaping company. I will have a seating area in my backyard for my fire pit, and a level gravel walkway to the pad for hubby to stop falling from the cement pad to the grass because of the difference in heights. The guys are working hard to make this real for us and before hubby gets to the point he won’t be able to enjoy it. My sewing and scrap booking will have to wait until later. Praying for your new adventures too.

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    1. Congratulations on your landscaping, and I hope you can enjoy it together for a season. And I totally understand your passions that are on the back burner. They will be waiting for you when the time is right! Have a great week, my friend.


  3. God unfolds and reveals plans to happen at just the right moment, we have to obediently follow His lead and trust. He has it figured out in His perfect timing!
    Awesome accomplishment with your book!!!❤️❤️❤️

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