The Fine Line

As caregivers, we know that we walk a fine line most of the time. We are constantly making decisions between 2 things, some of which are consequential, and others that are trivial. And at times it is exhausting! We must decide:           How much to assist our loved one. Should we let them dress themselves,Continue reading “The Fine Line”

DON’T Say THIS to a Caregiver!

It is no secret that sometimes our friends, even our closest friends, just don’t know what to say to make us feel better.  The truth is that there aren’t many things one can say to make caregiving easier. There are no platitudes, no cliches, no magic words, no secret coded phrases that will make itContinue reading “DON’T Say THIS to a Caregiver!”

What is Quality of Life?

Last week I advocated for quality of life versus quantity of years of life, but I never really defined that term – Quality of Life (QoL). And it could mean different things to different people, right? It is important to note that there is no “correct” definition, which also implies that there is no “incorrect”Continue reading “What is Quality of Life?”

One-Liners

My husband, Carlton, was the king of one-liners. He would listen to a conversation between 2 people, and it would seem as if he wasn’t really listening. But then, suddenly, he would interject a pithy statement, a one-liner, that really caused everyone to pause and take notice. He was a deep thinker, and his singularContinue reading “One-Liners”

I AM ENOUGH

Sometimes while caring for someone with a degenerative disease, we have occasion to doubt ourselves. To think we are the wrong person for the job. To think God must have made a mistake – surely someone else could do better. After all, we are so imperfect. Our loved one is not getting better. (We knewContinue reading “I AM ENOUGH”

The Fifth Season

In Kindergarten we learn about the 4 seasons: Summer, Autumn, Winter, and Spring. And those 4 become the norm for life for us. As children, we come to anticipate Summer and the change from school days to fun days. We even learn to associate the weather patterns of the seasons, depending on where we live.Continue reading “The Fifth Season”

On the First Day after Christmas

Many years ago, my husband was choral director at a local high school, and one of the songs he chose for the Christmas concert that year was titled “The Twelve Days AFTER Christmas.” It was a cute song that the kids loved to sing. The first line went like this: “On the first day afterContinue reading “On the First Day after Christmas”

The Impossible becomes Possible

As I read the Advent devotional each morning during this time of year, I am struck with the reminder that “With God all things are possible.” (Luke 1:37) That was God’s promise to Elizabeth and Zachariah when the angel told them they would have a son whom we call John the Baptist. That was God’sContinue reading “The Impossible becomes Possible”

It Takes a Crowd

Good morning, Caregivers. Today I am thankful for you and your dedication in caring for your loved one with a chronic disease such as Parkinson’s. I am also thankful for what I believe is my job today and going forward. It hasn’t changed from when I began this blog, but I’m thinking of it inContinue reading “It Takes a Crowd”