My goal is still to support and encourage those who care for a loved one with Parkinson’s Disease or any other degenerative condition.
Reprinted from 11/17/2018
We have just begun our 20th year with Parkinson’s Disease. It’s easy for me to think about how my husband was back then, compared to how he is now.
If I made a list of all the differences, you would grow weary of reading it because it would be long. Those memories bring intense sadness as I think of all the changes in him, both physically and mentally.
My life has also changed. And the list of “then” versus “now” is equally as long. Sometimes my mind really wants to stay in the past, but I realize how fruitless it is to dwell there too long. It is easy to become stuck in the past, but it can create a feeling of discontent and even loss.
Instead, I need to think about the here and now, and how I can lead a fulfilling life while caregiving. I’m not thinking about filling my life with activities, as much as I’m thinking about how to remain vital and alive personally.
Some say Parkinson’s is the BEST possible disease to have because it is slow-moving. We likely have time to accomplish many things in life, and we have time to finish what we’ve started.
Some say Parkinson’s is the WORST possible disease to have because it is slow, and it takes away the vitality of life, little by little.
I believe the truth is found somewhere in the middle. Here is what I mean.
Life is dynamic for all people, ever-changing. So, we need to live today as if it were our last day and do that every day. We are not promised a specific number of days of life on this earth, and not one of us knows the exact day of our death.
Instead of looking back and wishing we were young again, wishing we could do everything we used to be able to do, wishing we didn’t have Parkinson’s Disease, there is a better way.
That better way is to think of today as a gift and to greet everyone we meet as a valuable person who deserves a smile from us and a kind word.
That better way is to be thankful for today because that is the gift in available to us right now.
Yes, I look back and see how it used to be. Yes, I look ahead to the future and wonder if we will be able to do this and that. But the reality is that we have been given this moment, and I would like to use it to tell you this:
You are not alone as a caregiver. There are many of us around who would love to come alongside you on this journey and help you through it, whether virtually or literally. Don’t give up. Don’t despair. We are here to help.
Enjoy your gift of today. Thanks for reading and commenting.