Who are you?

What 3 adjectives best describe you?

What do you want people to remember about you?

Chances are that the answers to those questions best illustrate your goals in life. Have you ever actually written them down? Almost 20 years ago I was tasked with writing a mission statement for my life. It was work back then, but it has been valuable recently. Let me explain.

As a caregiver, like many of you, my life was consumed by caring for my husband. I do not use the word “consumed” lightly. Parkinson’s Disease was my entire life. For 23 years we read everything about PD, watched every video and movie about it, and researched it for countless hours. I used 99% of my energy caring for my loved one and learning how to make him more comfortable, and many of you can identify with that.

It is a good thing to care for our loved one, but sometimes we lose ourselves in that process. But caregiving is not forever. It will end. And in the case of those with a degenerative disease, it will end with the death of our loved one, as it did for my husband.

Please understand that I believe he is in a better place and no longer sick. That is a comforting thought for me, and I’m very happy for him. My faith in God and God’s promises concerning the death of those who love God is a comfort to me. If you’d like to know more about that, I would be honored to share my faith with you.

But now I am no longer a caregiver. So, who am I? What do I want to do with the rest of my life? To answer these questions, I have gone back to my mission statement, to my core values. Just reading that statement I wrote 20 years ago has given me focus, purpose, and clarity on how to move forward.

I promise to share my future plans with you soon, but today I want to just remind you that you are more than a caregiver. You are a person with dreams and goals and a mission in life. Your mission might be to spread peace, love and kindness. Lofty and admirable goals. You can do that now, even while caregiving. Keep those goals in mind now and remind yourself that you are important. Yes, your loved one for whom you care is also important. But you – caregiver – are also important as a person. Don’t give up who you are for what you do. One more time-

Don’t give up who you are for what you do.

If you haven’t written a personal mission statement, I challenge you to do that this week. And then live it out while caregiving. Because one day you will NOT be a caregiver, and you will be right where you want to be – living out your mission statement already.

Have a great week, and I can’t wait to hear about WHO you are!

Published by parkinsonscare

I'm a retired mathematics teacher, mother, and grandmother. I cared for my husband for 23 years, and now he is in Heaven. My new mission in life is to support and encourage caregivers like you!

16 thoughts on “Who are you?

  1. I love this Cheryl! Self reflection is an important key to healthy living and glorifying God. Love the link you provided to get a good idea of digging in on this.
    I’m excited to hear about your future plans as you reveal them on the blog.

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  2. Interesting…I was thinking’s about the purpose for my life this morning before reading your post. It’s confirmation that there’s a bigger purpose for all of us so I should use my life with an eye to eternity to fulfill God’s reason for my existence. Thanks again, Cheryl!

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  3. Who am I? Starting out as a daughter, granddaughter, sister, friend, eventually a student, graduate, then a teacher for 40+ years, wife for 37+ years (so far), to a caregiver. Throughout it all my Christian faith has gotten my through each day with grace and forgiveness. It was tough retiring from something that I loved, but my new position as a 24/7 caregiver was more important and still is. I have down time to think about what am I going to do with my time and who I am when my care giving position is no longer needed. Then I remember to breathe.
    God bless you. Hugs!!!

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  4. You always make me think, Cheryl. I think it is easy to become cynical and even angry about our situation. We are off to church in about 20 minutes. I will think about a mission statement for my life while there. Deep. A tough one. 😉

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